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1. Are there people that can benefit from these resources more than others?
People from the following groups with higher divorce rates have found the program particularly beneficial in their lives: - Military personnel, particularly those that face multiple deployments for extended periods of time. - Law enforcement officers, particularly those working in narcotics, homicide and other extremely stressful divisions. - Divorced people, particularly those that wish to remarry within three years of their divorce. - Couples that have been living together for more than six months prior to their upcoming wedding. - Couples that met over the Internet and have spent less than six months of quality time together. - Women that become pregnant prior to their engagement. - Couples in which one partner is under 23 years of age. 2. Why is it important to complete a Relationship Inventory? Numerous studies document how marital and premarital inventories help promote better marriages by addressing differences in backgrounds, individual personality traits and expectations that may cause problems after marriage. These tools are based upon the fact that the quality of your premarital relationship can foreshadow your own marital stability and happiness, and that addressing significant differences before and after you are married can increase your chances of a life-long and happy marriage. 3. Is the Relationship Inventory similar to compatibility tests provided by a number of dating services? No. The compatibility tests that dating services offer are taken before a couple has even met and are based upon input provided by the individuals. The Relationship Inventory is taken after a couple has already been dating and is based upon both their individual and comparative responses. Consequently, this program is not only far more effective than compatibility tests, but it is also less expensive than similar premarital inventories that require professional administration and grading. 4. How does The Relationship Inventory differ from other marital and premarital inventories and programs? The Relationship Site inventory is self-administered and totally confidential unlike inventories administered and graded by many counselors and members of the clergy. Also, unlike the advice that you would be provided after completing other inventories that represents the training and experience of a particular counselor or clergy person, the advice provided by the counseling insights includes input from literally hundreds of couples, counselors, chaplains and members of the clergy that have contributed to this program. 5. Is there a passing grade associated with taking this inventory? No letter or percentage grades are assigned after completing the inventory. However, the program will identify the potentially problematic issues that were computed as a result of your respective responses. 6. How many potentially problematic issues might lead a couple to reconsider getting married? The actual number of differences a couple might have is not as critical as the importance of the particular issues upon which they disagree. Hence, a disagreement over having or not having children can be far more critical than multiple differences over less important matters. 7. What happens once we print out our "potentially problematic issues" along with the "Counseling Insights?" Many couples lack the tools necessary to resolve certain problems in their relationship. Consequently, if you print out the statements that the program identified as "potentially problematic" and you find you are not able to resolve them by yourselves, you are strongly encouraged to seek professional help or order the Counseling Insights available on our website. With the help of these insights that partners read together before discussing a particular problematic statement, most couples are able to resolve their differences and be strengthened in their love for one another. 8. What do we do if we reach an impasse and are unable to resolve a potentially serious problem even with the help of the Counseling Insights? In these cases you are encouraged to meet with a counselor, therapist or member of the clergy for counseling. In order to assist the professional and save time (and money) in identifying the specific problematic issues in your relationship, you are encouraged to complete "Biographical Profiles" that can be downloaded and printed from our website. These profiles, along with the printout of the particular issue or issues you are unable to resolve, should help the counselor or clergyman just as X-Rays or other diagnostic test results might help a doctor effectively treat a patient. If you have a question that was not answered above, email it to: support@plaintec.net |
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