To strengthen your relationship or resolve any differences with the help of the counseling insights, simply click on those statements below that the program identified as "potentially problematic." The insights can be printed to facilitate their use during your discussion. In order to maximize the potential of this program to enhance your relationship, you can also read the insights associated with statements that may not have been identified as "potentially problematic." In so far as access to the "counseling insights" with your user name and password will expire after 90 days, you are encouraged to print and retain all counseling insights that you find helpful and applicable to your relationship prior to that expiration date.

COMMUNICATION
1. I am satisfied with how well we communicate with each other.
2. My partner is sensitive in offering me encouragement and support when I am discouraged or depressed.
3. My partner often fails to apologize after doing something wrong or hurting me.
4. My partner usually talks with me when there is something on his/her mind.
5. My partner is often uncomfortable in sharing his/her deep feelings with me.
6. I am uncomfortable at times in asking my partner for what I would like or want.
7. I am happy with the way decisions are made in our relationship.
8. We have discussed how we will keep in touch when work responsibilities (e.g., deployments) force us to be separated for extended periods of time.
9. We enjoy stimulating conversations on a broad variety of matters.

CONFLICT RESOLUTION
1. I generally feel satisfied with the outcome of our arguments.
2. We are usually able to resolve our problems without revisiting the same issues over and over again.
3. My partner is unable at times to control his/her anger.
4. I usually can sense when and know why my partner may be upset with me.
5. We often find ourselves arguing over petty matters.
6. From time to time my partner will bring up mistakes I made in the past.
7. I am concerned about how a past abusive or unfaithful experience might adversely affect our relationship.
8. My partner and I are always able to handle conflicts in constructive ways (e.g., without yelling or raising our voices).
9. My partner has criticized me at times in front of family, friends or strangers
10. My partner and I would not hesitate to seek counseling if problems developed and persisted that threatened our relationship.

DOLLARS AND SENSE
1. We are familiar with our income and expenses and are committed to maintaining and following a budget.
2. We pay our bills on time and we agree upon who will be responsible for paying them.
3. I am not sure exactly how much my partner makes and spends.
4. I trust my partner completely with all of our money (e.g., checkbook, credit cards).
5. I am uncomfortable with the fact my partner earns more than I make.
6. We have discussed and agree how much each of us can spend without consulting one another.
7. After having discussed savings, investments, debts, assets, powers of attorneys and wills, we believe we have a sound plan for our
future financial security.
8. We are not sure about the types and amount of insurance to carry (e.g., life, health, car, home).

INTIMATE RELATIONS
1. My partner meets all of my expectations for love and affection.
2. My partner and I are comfortable in talking about sex.
3. I am concerned that my partner has been or will be unfaithful.
4. I am concerned about the way my partner relates to members of the opposite sex.
5. I sometimes wonder that my partner's interest in me might simply be sexual.
6. I am concerned about how my partner's past sexual relationships might - affect / be affecting - our marriage.
7. Our relationship would definitely end if one partner were unfaithful.
8. Neither of us have any questions about our sexual identity .
9. I can easily identify quite a number of ways of maintaining intimacy and not losing romance in our relationship.
10. I am very well informed of various physical and psychological problems that can affect a decrease in a person's sex drive.

TODDLER STRATEGIES
1. We are in complete agreement about our desire to have (more) children.
2. We disagree about the size of family we would like to have.
3. We agree about when we would like to have (more) children.
4. We are in agreement about methods of family planning.
5. We agree about how we will raise and discipline our children.
6. We have similar views on adopting children.
7. We have different views on abortion.
8. One of us has a job that requires being away from home for extended periods of time.
9. We understand both the positive and negative effects children can have upon a couple's relationship.

IN-LAWS, OUTLAWS AND OTHERS
1. Both of our families are supportive of our relationship.
2. My partner's family at times becomes too involved in our relationship.
3. I am uncomfortable with a number of my partner's friends.
4. I am concerned about the degree of my partner's involvement with his/her friends.
5. I am not afraid to share with my partner any emotional hurts I may have experienced in my life (e.g., abuse, broken relationships).
6. My partner is very sensitive to any relational or emotional problems I may have experienced in the past.
7. We both have made a number of good friends and have similar and complementary interests.
8. We have a healthy balance between the time we spend together, the time we spend alone, and the time we spend with family and
friends.
9. Some people have questioned that we - may be marrying / married - too soon.
10.We would not disagree about a parent or other family member living with us if the need were to arise.

GREAT EXPECTATIONS
1. I know enough about my partner's past and I am not worried about how my partner might act in the future.
2. My partner and I are in agreement about our current employment situation and we have discussed alternative options for the future.
3. We - have yet to decide / disagree - about the division of our household tasks (e.g., cooking, cleaning, paying the bills).
4. We have discussed and are in agreement about the issue of both partners working.
5. We have argued about - our wedding plans / possibly getting a divorce.
6. We are in agreement about what kind of home we would like to have and can afford to buy.
7. We are in agreement about our future career plans.
8. Our ages are a concern to some family members and friends.
9. I have some doubts about marrying or staying married to my partner.
10.We are mature and strong enough in our relationship to deal with any number of tragedies in the future.

DIVINE INTERVENTION
1. We are not in complete agreement about where we - will marry / were married - (i.e., in a civil ceremony or in a particular religious service).
2. We both understand how a couple's moral and religious values can affect their marital success and happiness.
3. We discussed and are in agreement about the role religion will play in our relationship (e.g., attending worship).
4. We agree about the religious upbringing of our children.
5. I am not completely satisfied with my partner's attitude toward my religious beliefs and practices.

MISCELLANEOUS
1. I am uncomfortable with the amount of time my partner spends on the computer, watching DVDs or television.
2. I have never been embarrassed to be seen with my partner in public.
3. We agree about how neat and clean our home should be kept.
4. I am concerned about some of my partner's habits (e.g., drinking, smoking, gambling).
5. We disagree about the presence of pets around the house.
6. My partner is very attentive in remembering special occasions (e.g., birthdays, anniversaries) and acknowledging them in special
ways (e.g., cards, flowers, gifts).
7. One or both of us were married before.
8. We are both ethnically, racially, linguistically, religiously and culturally the same.
9. We were living together before we became engaged.
10. We are both familiar with the symptoms and effects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

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